Remember this, when you step over my door sill, you’ve been raised. You know the difference between right and wrong. Do right. Don’t let anybody else raise you and make you change. And remember this, you can always come home.’

Sunday, September 13, 2009

I thought this was a neat article.

Confidence is Attractive
Insecurity is never appealing. People prefer to be around individuals who are comfortable with who they are and like themselves. After all, no one enjoys hearing people put themselves down. Or worse, put others down to build up their own self-esteem. So tap into your inner strength and power. Pinpoint what makes you feel confident. Clearly define what you have to offer the world - and a partner. Once you own all the qualities that make you unique, interesting and worthy, you will radiate and attract others like a beacon of light.
Passion is Attractive
Living your life with purpose and intention is always more appealing than the alternative. We all know too many people who just drift through life, never showing much passion for anything. Conversely, people who love what they do and do what they love tend to be extremely alluring. So pursue your interests. Take up hobbies that you've been meaning to explore. Everyone is great at something. Develop your skills and expertise. Do the things that make you feel like you and bring you real fulfillment and joy.
Expressing yourself is Attractive
Consider how charming and appealing good conversationalists are. They tend to be the most popular people in any room. They make us feel good about ourselves. They engage us. They seem to always know just the right thing to say that will break the tension or make people laugh. Communication is truly an art. And research shows that good communication skills are learned not inherent. So if you aren't the best communicator, you can make the effort to learn, and hone your skills with every conversation.
Tuning into Others is Attractive
Take another close look at that definition of attractive at the top of this article. Notice how it speaks about evoking a positive emotion in the other person. What can you do to evoke "pleasure or delight" in someone else? There is no better way to do this than by listening intently and showing genuine interest in another person. This is a very powerful tactic that is often neglected. We can all work on our listening skills, and doing so can really affect how we are perceived by the opposite sex. Try it!
Optimism is attractive. Ever notice that negativity tends to breed more negativity? And, on the flip side, that a positive outlook can be infectious? Or that no one likes to be around a Debbie Downer or Negative Nelson? They just aren't very attractive. So take stock. Are you a glass-half-empty type of person? If so, focus on shifting your outlook. Your topics of conversation should follow. We challenge you to start thinking about attractiveness in a broader way than you have in the past. Pay attention to what you find attractive in others. Then identify your own strengths and weakness. Be honest with yourself. Open yourself up to real personal growth and progress. After all, at the heart of any great relationship is the idea of transformation, of merging two into one, of challenging each other and making each other better.
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1 comment:

The Sheaffer family said...

Thank you friend! I really needed to hear this!!!!!!!!!!!!